Before Post became an etiquette expert, she was singed by scandal.

So how does an etiquette expert apologize in such a situation?

Some American etiquette experts consider the practice incorrect and ineffective at increasing response rates.

But laws cannot govern daily behavior, etiquette experts say.

This bending of the rules sets etiquette experts on edge.

The dance was frowned upon by etiquette experts.

But etiquette experts say other service personnel should get a personal gift, too.

Arrive with a gift or, says Peggy Post, the etiquette expert, send one soon after.

This is the kind of thing that sets etiquette experts reeling.

Which is not to say that, despite what etiquette experts advise, releasing anger isn't healthier than holding it in.