By demanding that leaders of the Church be a one woman man, Paul excluded remarried widowers from having influence.

Those not eligible include: The remarried widower/widow of an eligible person, unless he/she is no longer married at death; Those whose last discharge was less than honorable.

One frequently hears of remarried widowers who continue to moon about their dead first wives, but for a remarried widow to show any such sentimentality would be a nine days' wonder.